I don’t deny that asexuality is a legitimate (albeit very rare) orientation. But I think most people identifying as “demisexual,” are putting a label on what is actually a very common inclination just so they can claim minority status.
I know it is very controversial to question any orientation on tumblr, but there is a point when the labels get ridiculous. I’m not complaining because the number of labels is “confusing” - I’m complaining because it is bordering on offensive to come up with excuses to try to worm your way into the gender/sexual minority community, which is quite honestly what this is. And I say this as someone who fits the demisexual definition:
I have never experienced sexual attraction to someone without first forming a strong emotional connection with them.
Neither have many other teenagers, which is one of the reasons I think the term is so popular on tumblr: it gives ordinary people the chance to feel special. When I first read the definition of demisexuality, I felt excited because I never realized that I was part of the LGBTQIA(etc) community before. Believe me - I understand the desire to be something other than a boring old “cishet.” But in reality there are millions of people outside of tumblr who would kill to be just that, and I’m not going to discredit their struggles by waving a rainbow flag and yelling “DEMISEXUAL PRIDE!”
In short: Everyone experiences sex and sexual attraction differently; having a slightly lower libido does not warrant a separate orientation nor put you on the same level as the millions of people around the world who suffer daily for theirs.
The fact that there will be people ranting at me for writing this proves my point: that people would rather fight for recognition of their own made-up identity than take a stand against the oppression of real ones.